A Heart Mishandled

Have you ever given so much love to someone just to realize the love you were giving to them was the love you needed to give to yourself? I love getting to know more than the surface of a person. Everything that reveals a person comes from within. We give so much to investing in relationships that we never look for the signs that end up hurting us in the long run. We don’t see the pain they will cause later in a moment of pure joy. We give and give, and they take and take, then leave the moment they get what they want from you. We dilute our essence to take on the fullness of someone else’s.

I love purely. I love genuinely.

Not everyone will know how to receive the kind of love that you have to give. Maybe being heartbroken has caused you to love the way you do. You love differently when your heart has been taken for granted. When you start to hurt in a way that you may have known someone else to. What would your love be like if someone wouldn’t have mishandled your heart? Would you really know the extent to which another person hurts? Would you love like your life depended on it or would you harden yourself to love? Could you relate to others with a heart mishandled like yours? And by your heart being mishandled, you realize that you wouldn’t want to do it to someone else. Did the brokenness need to teach you a lesson about love? Did it need to teach you how to be more careful with the heart of a person you could lose?

When your heart has been broken, not only do you become unfamiliar with the person who broke it, but you also become unfamiliar with yourself. Unfamiliar with the person because that’s not who you thought them to be; someone that would actually break your heart, and unfamiliar with yourself because you don’t know who you’re becoming in the process. You thought you knew who you were before it happened, just to realize you really didn’t. You find out that there was still more to learn about yourself before learning of someone else. You find out that you deserved better than how you allowed yourself to be treated. You find out that you fell for lust so deep that you mistook it for love. You are finding out a lot of things, even when it feels you are losing everything at the same time. 

You wonder how you ended up being in the state you are in, and how you will ever make it to the other side of your pain. It would be great to experience more profound love than profound heartbreaks. The unprecedented heartbreaks put you in a hard place. You feel utterly and helplessly alone. But know this, there is a time that comes when it all gets better. You see the reason for it happening. You learn that a forgiving heart is one that heals and loves deeply. You are able to use that pain to help others. They will be able to overcome what you overcame. People mishandle what doesn’t belong to them, and they give it back broken when they can’t make the repairs. Their character will change how you see them. Their underlying issues will lead them to mishandle everything they come in contact with. They are human and will make mistakes. Forgive them from your heart with everything you got. Move on and heal. Let it go. People don’t understand that when they mistreat you, they mistreat themselves. You were not made to be misused and abused, so don’t allow it. Others see the value in you when you see it in yourself. I believe someone will outgrow the fear of your love. Allow them to see you walking in love, even if they missed you crawling in love. Let there be no strife in your heart. Think about how God handles your heart after someone mishandles it. He cares for what He molded to perfection.

What you give to be all that God created you be is never easy but always worth it. A life lived in Christ and getting a revelation of His love expands our capacity to love others. Through our experiences, we learn so much about ourselves that propels us into our purpose to tell of His goodness. I’ve taken my losses in life and counted them as blessings. Become a person of love. It will change your life and give you perspective. Receive God’s love for yourself and love others as He has loved you. Experience what love does for wounded hearts. Your heart may have been mishandled as valuable as it is; it may have been used against you, but you can handle how you respond to the people who have no revelation of God’s love for them, by giving them what they couldn’t give you.  

All my love.